Time has not been on my side lol

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And what is going on, beautiful people? It is the CFG, and welcome to a new episode of the Confident Fat Guy Podcast. I know I haven't been around in a week with my work schedule and holidays and just everything going on in my life, it was just very hard to get into a new episode. But before we get into today's episode, I would like to thank my sponsors, RiseEle Coaching and Aaron5 News. RiseElite Coaching offers strength, nutrition, and personalized workouts for a busy professional without the without burnout. Contact Kai at RiseEliteCoaching at Outlook.com. You can also find RiseElite Coaching on Instagram and TikTok. And Aaron5News. Go to Facebook and follow Aaron5News. What does Aaron5 News offer? He offers free business advertising. So GoFriend request Aaron Glunt. He's a good kid. And Aaron5News is taking over Indiana's social media news outlet. And Ashley Aldridge, thank you so much for being a supporter of the podcast. I appreciate you all. Thank you again to Ashley, Risey Late Coaching, and Aaron Five News for supporting and sponsoring the Confident Fat Guy podcast. If you would like to sponsor or support the Confident Fat Guy podcast, wherever you're listening to the podcast from, there is a support button. If you want to sponsor, if you are a business and you want to sponsor the Confident Fat Guy podcast, or you just want to sponsor, it's$10 a month, and you'll get a shout-out on every episode of the Confident Fat Guy podcast. And if you just want to support, I think it's like three dollars. You're more than welcome to do more. And you'll also get a shout-out on every one of the Confident Fat Guy podcast episodes. Now, today I apologize if I'm starting, like I feel like I'm starting over again. I'm losing some words, I haven't really talked much on the podcast, I haven't really done much on social media, so it's like doing it all over again. So, how was your guys' Easter? Easter was last Sunday or a couple Sundays ago. I don't know, my days are getting mixed up, but I had a blast. Me and Lindsay and the kids spent Easter together, and then the following Monday we went to the zoo, which unfortunately I was not too impressed with. Um, we drove an hour and something to the zoo, and we got there when they opened, and most of the stuff was shut down or closed. I was like, well, this was definitely not the money that I spent on it, but it's no big deal. The kids had fun, and that's really all that matters. But other than that, things have been going great. Like, I never thought that I would find my person, and I truly believe I found her. Like, I know we dated back in high school 20 something years ago, but I mean, that was 20 something years ago. I mean, we've both changed, and it it's honestly like I found my best friend, like I found the one, and it's it's great. Like, we are having a blast together. You know, we did, I'm not saying we had a rough time, it was more of I was having a rough time with things, you know, this body image and how to act again as a boyfriend, and yeah, but things are going good, you know. We've had our talks, you know, things are really good, and I'm so blessed to have something so beautiful as she is, and I'm happy, and it's great. And I hope you guys had a fabulous Easter. I hope you guys got to spend time with your families and just enjoy each other because life is short, and with everything going on in the world right now, right now we need love and support. We don't need discontinuance, we don't need separation, we need togetherness, we need love, we need support, and yeah, that's what we need right now, and I hope you guys are doing amazing. You know, I was thinking about this, and I started this podcast because I wanted to share my story of mental health, and I wanted to help others with their mental health and how to get through things, and this podcast has become more of a journal, more of a what have I been doing over the week, or and it's kind of I don't want to say it slid away from my stories because I've really told most of my of my important things and the the traumas that I endured in my life, and now it's just more of a I don't want to say like a talk show or anything because that's not how it is, but I'm thinking of more ways to improve the podcast, and I feel like I don't want to be all depressing anymore, and which don't get me wrong, those stories needed to be told, and you guys needed to hear them, but now it's more of a I want you guys to be happy. I want this podcast to be happy. I've still got other stories, I really do, and sometimes it's hard to remember a lot of things, whether it's because of me, because I don't want to remember them, so it's hard to tell a story that I've tried so hard to forget the memories, but I try and I still write stuff down, and now it's when I go through my notebooks to see what I want to do with the podcast, it's well, I would like to talk about this, but I don't have everything down, or I'd like to talk about this, but I can't remember what happened. So now, until I remember things, I just go on here and talk to you guys. And I still try to spread positivity, and I still want to spread confidence because that's what I want you guys to be. I want you guys to be confident, I want you guys to be positive, I want you to walk into an interview and think you have it, and don't get discouraged if you don't. It's just a stepping stone, and that's every and it's not just a job interview, it's life. I want you guys to wake up in the morning and I want you to give it your all. Whether anything bad happens or not, anything bad happens is just a stepping stone. That is all it is. It's a fork in the road, and it's what you make of it. You know, I've actually had a pretty inventful week. Um, I did have a job interview, it was with the same company um that I'm with, but it was for a supervisor's position, and I knew the four other people that were going to or did apply to it, and I knew I wasn't gonna get it. Um, I went in there knowing I wasn't gonna get it, but you know, I tried, and I got a really cool email back from the product manager, and no, obviously I didn't get it, but it didn't discourage me. And that's what that's what I'm kind of going for today, is the opportunities that come to you, I want you to hit head on. Even if you know that you're not going to get the position, I want you to go in there and I want you to be confident and positive like you've already had the job. And if if you know you're not gonna get it, or you don't get it, and you get you know an email back like I did from a product manager, that's to me, that interview was just something that I wanted to go through to know what an interview like that would be like. It was for the experience, and yes, I've put in a different couple of applications. Not that I don't like my job, I love my job, but these jobs are more more pay, and I'm talking like seven to ten dollars more than what I make now. You know, my job has given me so much. I mean, they this job has been able been abling for me to, you know, pay my bills and collect my toys and take Lindsay and the kids out. But with what I want to accomplish in life and what my goals and dreams are, I need to make a little bit more. And so there's been a couple opportunities that have floated my way, and I've put in applications for them. Um, I did the assessment for one and I passed it. So the next step is an interview, so I'm waiting for that. Um, excuse me. So we'll see how it goes. You know, I'm an opportunist. If something comes my way that I feel like is better than what I'm doing now, then I might pursue it and I might look into it. I love my job, don't get me wrong, but it's probably like any other job, it's like high school, and there's so much drama, and we have a high turnover rate, and the overtime is ridiculous, and I'm just tired all the time, and trying to work and spend time with Lindsay and you know, try to sleep. I've been lacking a lot on social media. Obviously, I didn't put out an episode last week, and you know what? I've just come to realize that's gonna happen as much as it sucks for me because I told you guys I never wanted to miss a week, but unfortunately, it's gonna happen. And I also thought about, you know, maybe switching to a new episode every other week. I don't know yet. Um, I still have my email up. It's confidentfatguy at yahoo.com. Give me your input. You know, you guys can email me. That's why I created it. And I've had that email up for I don't know, six months now, and I'm not hearing from anybody. So please, if you wanna, if you have any suggestions or if you want to hear something, or you know, if you've got an issue with something and you don't want to talk to anybody else, feel free to email me. Um, you can also get a hold of me on Facebook, TikTok, and Instagram. It's all at confident fat guy. So I don't know, like everything is like going so fast now, and it's like, man, I've I don't have time for anything. But hey, you know what? I'm working on it, and we have a new episode, and I'm gonna do my absolute best to bring an episode every week, and if that doesn't happen, I'm sorry, it will be other every other week. I don't know. I haven't thought about it yet. I I mean I have thought about it, there's so much I have thought about, but pretty much where I'm at now is when I started the Confident Fat Guy brand, there was so much I wanted to do, and I put so much on my plate that I wanted to get done, and a lot of it just wasn't feasible. It wasn't so there's a lot of things I've toned down with a lot that I've wanted to do just because I don't have time for all that, you know, it's I enjoy doing the podcast, and I wanted to get this brand out so much, but everything else that I wanted with this podcast or with the brand, it's just not feasible. Like, I've I've come to learn that. Like, maybe if I was a semi-rich dude where I could stay home all the time and just do social media, yeah, that'd be different, but I'm not. I'm just your average, average dude. I have kids, I have a girlfriend, I have a job, I have to deal with life, and social media is not my top priority, and it sucks because I was on social media all the time, and I still try to get on social media, but right now the podcast is where it's gonna stay at right now. Um, I know I've already set up a YouTube account, and you can find all the episodes of the Call of the Fat Guy podcast on there. I think there's an interview that I did with somebody, but I just can't do YouTube plus a job, plus I'm I'm just not gonna do it. And it just seems to me that you know there's a lot of people that I've gotten contact with about interviewing or you know, getting together and talking that aren't just in that they're just not interested. I don't think they actually believe in my brand, which that's fine, you know. I do this for you guys. I talk for you guys. I don't really care whether you know other people don't believe in me. I believe in me, and I believe in this brand, and I have almost 900 downloads, like it's crazy. Like, you guys have made this podcast, you guys listen to this podcast, and I'm so grateful, and I want to say thank you so much, and my goal is this podcast will never go away. Like, I enjoy it too much, I enjoy talking, whether it's just for a few minutes, you know, or whatever the case may be. I enjoy it, and life is going good, and I want you guys to listen to the podcast, and I want you guys to feel good, and I want you guys to feel motivated, and I want you guys to feel confident, and I want you guys to hear what I go through and not make the same mistakes. I want you guys, you know, I had an issue with body image, and the confident fat guy, man, I get asked so much, especially my last episode, is you know, you portray to be the confident fat guy. Yeah, absolutely. But I started this podcast when I wasn't with anybody, and I was pretty confident, and now that I have a partner, it was more of oh my god, I gotta show myself to this person, and I haven't been very motivated to go to the gym, and I've been slacking on my diet. I think I've only gained like five pounds, it's not a big deal. But I went from 250, I think I'm 254, 255, somewhere around there now. I just haven't had time, and you know, I'm gonna get oh, you know, you're not dedicated, you're lazy, blah, blah, blah, blah. Cool, cool, bro, whatever. At one point in time, the gym was my everything, and I was there all the time, and I pushed myself. I can still pretty much lift almost the same weight as I could, and that's what I strive for. I love being strong. But yeah, there have been some forks in the road where it's like, I don't have time for this. Call that lazy, call whatever you want. But this is my thing. When you have all the gym rats, you know, on social media. I love social media, but social media is also a very bad place because you also have all these fucking keyboard warriors. You know what? This is my thing, this is my opinion. You do you, you do what you makes you happy. I got stuck in the social media vibe where you know, I seen this influencer or that influencer, and I wanted to do the same thing. Once I started learning more about social media and the people on social media, a lot of what you see is fake or edited or filtered, or these people that are doing all these videos and all that stuff, they have money and they have time. I'm a normal person. I don't have that time. And right now, with the way my life is going and the way I'm enjoying so much of my life, is I work, I spend time with my girlfriend and my kids, and I sleep. And it's a revolving door. I get two days off a week to get what I need to get done, whether it's laundry, whether it's cleaning, whether it's trying to put out a new episode of the podcast, to paying my bills, to, you know, doing what my son wants to do, and it's a lot. So there's little parts that I just can't fit in right now. Yeah, it will change, you know, and I'll get my schedule down and I'll make everything make sense. And if you're having trouble with the same thing I am, put your priorities in perspective. Because there's a lot of things that I sh not saying that I should be doing, but I have to put my priorities first. And I'm not saying my health isn't important. I'm I'm still a very active person. I just don't really have time to go to the gym. And that's where my body issue came came from when I got with Lindsay and we talked about it, and she made me feel comfortable. And I I'm saying this because I I know a lot of other people go through the same thing, and that confidence, you know, you can be a confident person, but there's some things that you know you're gonna step into that's that's gonna be very not so confident and not so you know positive, but that's where you make it positive. You know, I was saying I didn't mean to say stepping stones earlier. You know, bad stuff that happens, it's just a roadblock, or it's a more of a speed bump, in my opinion. You're gonna get through it. It might hurt and it might take some time, but you're gonna get through it. So I apologize if I said a stepping stone. I'm more or less a speed bump, or you know, you come to a fork in the road and you can't decide which way you want to go. Look at your pros and cons, you know. Look look at the pros and cons of each direction and do what fits you. Do what makes you happy because it's not about everybody else, it's about you. It's all about you and your decisions. Don't worry about if everybody else thinks your decision is wrong or you're gonna fail or this or that. If you're gonna fail, at least fail on your own. Work your butt off and try your ass off. And if you fail, it's not because of other people. And failure isn't an option. It really isn't. You can have speed bumps, but failure is not an option. You're gonna do great with whatever you do. And if it doesn't work the first time, there's always a second, third, fourth, and fifth time. There's always more and more and more chances. There really is. And unfortunately, I've learned that the hard way. Just like a lot of things we've talked about in my life, I learned things the hard way. I now in my older age, I I do what's easier. You know, I I don't procrastinate as much as I used to. Um, I have a partner I can talk to. Um it's not just me making a decision on my own. And that's what I'm more known for, is you know, doing things on my own. And that is the hardest thing about a relationship. Going into a relationship, being out of a relationship for so long, it's not just me making decisions. I've got to make decisions on not only my son, but Lindsay has a daughter that I'm absolutely in love with. Um I already think of her as my own. Um, so yeah, I got other people to think about and not just me and my son. So it's been great, and I hope you guys have been great too. Um, again, I'm sorry that I didn't put out an episode last week, and I'm sorry that I'm not quite on social media as I used to be, but I'm enjoying life so much. Um, and I never thought that it would be like this, but I'm glad it has been. So it's been good. So I hope you guys are doing great. You know, I say it all the time. So thank you for joining me on this new episode of the Confident Fat Guy podcast. You can follow me on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook at ConfidentFatGuy. 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